Saturday, December 31, 2011

2011 Weddings

With 2011 taking its final bow, it’s time to celebrate this year’s marriages – from the dress shopping, to the pre-wedding jitters, to the embarrassing toasts, to the love and support of friends and family. Here’s a shout-out to 2011’s brides and grooms, who made it through the stress and chaos of planning on wedding so they could ring in the new year with their new hubbies and wifeys.

Ilsa Chapple & Matthew Gabriel
Ilsa & Matt
         Ilsa and Matt married on September 5th in Seattle, and I had the pleasure of attending their wedding. This couple is a true example of partnership and support, since they recently moved to Georgia together and they plan on moving to Germany! To see their relationship blossom while Ilsa and I worked together at Seattle U was so amazing, and I wish them only good things in their future side-by-side.

Erin Crittenden & Jason Shook
         My cousin, Erin, married Jason Shook in an intimate ceremony in September. Congratulations and best wishes to Erin, who is one of the sweetest people I know, and her hubby as they plan for the arrival of their baby boy!

Maria Crittenden & Hunter Calloway
Maria & Hunter
         My second-cousin, Maria, and Hunter were married on August 6th in Virginia. I was so happy to reunite with Maria before she got married since we had fun exchanging wedding plans before our big days (or really DAY since we had the same wedding date!) Congratulations to Maria and Hunter – I cannot think of a more adorable couple.

Ashleigh Darnell & Gustavo Ruiz
         Congratulations to one of my best friends from middle school, Ashleigh Darnell, who married Gustavo Ruiz in March. They now have an adorable little boy named Diego, who is just too cute for words! I cannot wait to see how Ashleigh, who has always been the personification of love and warmth, and her hubby raise their adorable baby boy!

Katie Crittenden & Brandon Morris
Me & My Hubby
         Let’s not forget my favorite married couple of the year (no offense to anyone else – I’m clearly biased)! After Brandon and I got married, the question that everyone had for us was “How’s married life?” Our answer was always the same: “Exactly the same as it was before.” Having lived together for three years before our wedding, it felt like we had been married for years already. However, after some much-needed reflection, I realized that our outlooks had changed. Before, everything was leading up to the wedding, and now, what’s in front of us is our lives together and whatever else gets thrown our way.

Bottom Line: 2011 was a great year for love, but I can’t wait to see what 2012 has to offer! Happy New Year to all readers of The “I Do” Guru, and to the newlyweds of 2011.

Saturday, December 10, 2011

“Bride Wars” & Sharing Your Wedding Ideas

“Bride Wars” is the tale of two best friends, Liv (Kate Hudson) and Emma (Anne Hathaway), who become enemies when they accidentally schedule their dream weddings for the same day. The film is a back-and-forth battle of the brides, attempting to ruin the other’s big day.

This film is definitely a chick flick, and so I did not subject Brandon to watching the movie with me. I felt that the characters were unlikable and insincere, with very shallow personalities. I had a hard time sitting through this movie, especially the second time I watched it (don’t judge me). The ratings are:

Bride – 3/10
Bridesmaid – 7/10 (Venus, I love you, but … really?)

As a bride, I can understand the incomprehensible desire to have a unique wedding that is all one’s own. However, this blog serves as evidence to the fact that although I wanted a wedding that fit our individual style, I still share my experience with other brides. This is because I appreciated others’ desire for me to have the perfect day, and I want other brides to have their dream wedding.

Is it okay to be a little selfish on your wedding day? Yes, yes, a thousand times yes. There are those that will want the weeks/months leading up to the wedding to be all about them. However, laid-back brides should not feel surprised if they develop a selfish instinct at some point. For me, it was the dress. In planning my wedding, I wanted to share the day with my then-fiancé, my wedding party, and my family – in other words, I never wanted the day to be all about me. However, when I bought my wedding dress (a full eight months before the day), I became so possessive of the gown. I was so paranoid that another bride in my life would wear the same dress for her wedding, but fortunately for me, my unique style came through for me!

Bottom Line: It is expected for a bride to be a little selfish on her big day. But as everyone else puts her fulfillment of her wedding dreams as a priority, the bride should do the same for others. There’s no harm in keeping your details a secret just in case, but the characters in “Bride Wars” are downright malicious and petty. Watch it with your bridesmaids - not safe for grooms.